Once again, the gifted and talented program in our county has presented us with a dilemma.
Namely, that Nolie didn't get in.
She doesn't know this yet, so if you're someone who sees her, or has a kid who sees her, please don't say anything.
Her test scores weren't bad by any means, but they were pretty blah across the board.
I think I can speak for E. when I say our first reaction was, CRAP. Not because we are so in love with GT or anything, or think our kid won't be successful without it, but because her very vocal older sister is in GT, and thinks the world of it, and CRAP will Nolie think that she's not the gifted or talented one in the family? That she is something other that smart and lovely and a gift to everyone who meets her?
Also, it's confusing, seeing as Nolie is doing really well in school, and her teachers are having to work hard to challenge her in math and reading. So did she just have a couple of off-days of testing? Or does the testing not capture all kinds of giftedness (know the answers to that one)? Is she just not ready for that kind of testing?
Biggest question of all: what to do now?
Gather information about our options. Get some resources on how to deal with this kind of situation. Maybe advocate for a retest. We don't quite know yet.
I'm not a fan of moments like this, where there is no clear path forward, and you have to be careful that your actions and attitudes aim for what's best for your kid and aren't just a reflection of your own fears and insecurities as a parent.
I think Nolie would do great in a GT classroom. But I also know she's smart, funny, resilient, loving, and basically all-around awesome. And I'll need to be all of those things, too, so I can always be her best parent, coach, advocate, and ally, reminding her that she is gifted and talented, no matter what any test says, or how her classroom is labeled.